Posted by: icmadoptionnetwork | March 8, 2013

The “D” Word

I thought that, since it is Friday and I’m gone all week next week, I would shake things up a bit by bringing up a topic that has many differing opinions… DISCIPLINE.

Discipline is something that parents are called by God to partake in. Every child needs discipline. I don’t think anyone would argue that fact. The debate usually comes when you enter the topic of methods and modes of discipline.

That being said, I am not going to discuss methods and modes of discipline, but I am going to address the heart of discipline.

When we look at discipline as regarded in Scripture, we find that discipline is used for training, not punishment. The discipline is administered to teach the individual right from wrong; safe from unsafe. Discipline is administered best when it comes from a heart of love and relationship. Afterall, this is how our Heavenly Father disciplines us.

Hebrews 12:5-11

And have you completely forgotten this word of encouragement that addresses you as a father addresses his son? It says,

“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline,
and do not lose heart when he rebukes you,
because the Lord disciplines the one he loves,
and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.”[a]

Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father?  If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all.  Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live!  They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

Our desire in our own parenting should be that we lovingly build relationship with our children through disciplining, teaching, and correcting. When we have at the heart of discipline our love for the child and our desire to build a stronger relationship, our discipline will be effective and bring our children closer to us rather than driving them away from us.

In addressing such a sensitive topic, I pray that this blog encourages and affirms you as parents and disciplinarians. God bless each and every one of you!



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