Posted by: icmadoptionnetwork | May 15, 2013

Playing the Waiting Game

Lately, I’ve been hearing from a lot of families who are really struggling with the waiting period.  The crazy amounts of paperwork are done, the home visits have come and gone, the home studies are finalized and sent off, all fees are paid, and now…it’s time to wait.  Most adoptive families agree that the waiting period is by far the most stressful and difficult part of the entire process. 

Everyone handles the dreaded waiting period differently.  Some rush into a flurry of activity and buy every adoption book they can get their hands on, get the nursery painted and ready,  start gathering clothes and toys, etc.  There is no time to sit down and breathe – there’s a child to prepare for!  Others simply sit and wait, too scared to make any purchases or start preparing in case something falls through and hopes are dashed.  During such a strenuous time, it is important to find a healthy balance between these two approaches.  Adoptive Families magazine published an article entitled, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda,” in which veteran adoptive mothers talked about what they would have done differently during the waiting period.  You can find the article here:

http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/articles.php?aid=1246 

This article gives some great quotes by adoptive mothers regarding “If I could do it over again, I would…” and “I’m glad I…”  For those of you who are in the middle of the waiting process, I encourage you to read this quick article for some great advice and encouragement. 

No matter what your approach to navigating the choppy waters of waiting, remember that the absolute best option you have is entrusting this rough time and your child into the hands of our all-knowing, all-powerful, and fully in-control God. 

1 Samuel 1:27 – “For this child I have PRAYED, and the Lord has GRANTED me what I asked of Him.”

Psalm 40:1 – “I WAITED patiently for the Lord; He turned to me and HEARD my cry.”

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